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Is God a Narcissist?

It was gorgeous. The highway through northeastern Oregon crossed rolling hills of range land covered in still-green grass and scrubby sagebrush. Bluffs of creased rock rose beside the road. Tall trees surrounded solitary ranch houses in scattered valleys. It was the type of landscape that makes a person seem small in the universe. Psalm 8 came to mind.

When I look at your heavens, the work of your fingers,
the moon and the stars that you have established,
what are human beings that you are mindful of them,
mortals that you care for them?
Yet you have made them a little lower than God…
You have given them dominion over the works of your hands…

Psalm 8, New Revised Standard Version

My in-laws have lived for almost 90 years on farmland in south-central Idaho and are grudgingly considering a move to a retirement community in the other end of the state. We had just visited them to hear about their decision and help them prepare for the move. Their minds tell them to move but their hearts want to stay. Their lives had meaning in Twin Falls where they were rooted and their friends lived. Could they find new meaning and purpose in Spokane?

Divine Narcissism

As I drove home to Seattle, I thought about the fragility of life, the passage of years and the meaning of life. In eighth grade I had to learn the first question of the Westminster Catechism in order to join the church and the words of the Catechism returned to mind now: “What is the chief and highest end of man [sic]? Man’s chief and highest end is to glorify God and enjoy him forever.

Hearing that voice of the Catechism in my head put me over the edge. Such beauty and such sorrow just to glorify God? Really? What kind of divine being would create a world like that? It sounds like the ultimate in narcissism and selfishness.

If some human dude told me my main purpose in life is to glorify him; the healthiest, wisest thing I could do would be to laugh in his face and run the other direction. If self-denigration is a prescription for a stifling, abusive human-human relationship, why would it be different for a human-divine relationship and worldview? If it’s unhealthy between human beings, it seems an equally unhealthy way to think about God.

Another View

However, because human beings are meaning-makers, myth-makers, I needed an alternative way to think about the meaning of human life and my place in the world that would give my in-laws and me something purposeful and worth living for.  I threw my anger, questions, despair and hope at the universe as I drove on in silence and beauty, wrestling with the Divine while my husband and dogs slept. 

Just the day before, I had held a blue and white plate painted in 1765 and wondered whose table it had originally graced, for what was it used, and what stories were told at that table. I considered that in fifty years, someone may hold items I now treasure and wonder about the people owned them, as well.

A voice says, “Cry out!”
And I said, “What shall I cry?”
All people are grass, their constancy is like the flower of the field.
The grass withers, the flower fades,
when the breath of the Lord blows upon it;
surely the people are grass.
The grass withers, the flower fades;
but the word of our God will stand forever.

Isaiah 40:6-8 , New Revised Standard Version

I had done my best all that weekend to be patient and kind as my beloved mother-in-law sorted through one-half of one closest. I do my best to be a good daughter as my mother progresses into severe dementia. I try to find meaning and purpose in my own life while dealing with one health issue after another. I have tried to find God and purpose for life in all of these situations. Here’s where I’ve ended up:

Plants and animals evolve. Rocks wear away in the elements. Rivers carve new paths. So, too, our understanding of that which is beyond our comprehension needs to be open to new path, new crevices, evolving into new ways of thinking and believing about eternal matters. Here’s what I believe, what I reaffirmed as I drove through the beauty of western Oregon with a heart full of love and grief:

Partnership with God

I believe that each of us in this world is a partner with that which created the universe. We are therefore to cherish the world and all its life forms. I believe that each of us and all of us together exist as partners with the Creator of the universe to bring health, wholeness, and fullness of life to everyone. To do so, we must live justly, practice kindness, and walk humbly, as the prophet Micah says. In the words of Jesus, we are called to be servants of all and to give our life for others.

I don’t know where life leads, but as surely as birds sing and flowers bloom and the sun rises each morning, humans are created to bring goodness into the world; and beauty, and joy, and love. I believe the world is still being created and that we are part of the process of creation unfolding. I believe not in obliteration of self to God, but partnership with God.

Some would say God is near. I’d like to believe that. I don’t know. In the meantime, I feel as one who has stepped off a cliff and holds on by her fingernails. “I believe. Help my unbelief.” If there is a God, he/she/it is different from anything we can conceive, so our descriptions need always to be conditional.

I continue to act my way into being. Do good. Affirm beauty. Live. Love.

So, what do you think? What would you say is the purpose of human life? Are you searching? Let me know. Let’s talk.


Pedophelia Is Not Christian

It’s past time to speak on behalf of the Christian Church and its witness.  Pedophilia is not Christian; no matter how much Roy Moore, Jerry Falwell, Jr., and some Evangelical Christians try to claim otherwise. The God of love and mercy for whom Jesus lived and died weeps and rages each time someone is raped, molested or sexually assaulted in any way.  God knows that even one such experience has a lifelong impact.  No matter how much someone claims these acts are done under the guise God’s will, destroying the lives of others in such a heinous way is never God’s will.

Brave women are sharing publicly for the first time their stories of being sexually assaulted as teenagers (as young as 8th grade) by the current Republican candidate for Senate in Alabama, Judge Roy Moore.  These women shared their stories privately years ago with family and friends; they did not wait until Moore was running for national office before telling what happened.  In addition, multiple people have reported that Moore was banned from a shopping mall and YMCA in his hometown in the 1980’s because of his known predilection for young girls.

Disgustingly, but sadly and not surprisingly, most of the political world, conservative media, and many Evangelical Christians are now contorting themselves to support this pedophile’s election to Congress.  Few call for him to pull out of the race or for voters to elect someone else (even a Democrat, if necessary).  I wish I could pray, “God, have mercy on their souls,” but I can’t yet.  Maybe I’ll have to leave the decision about mercy and forgiveness up to God.

Making their position even worse, most of the people who continue to support Roy Moore see no contradiction between his alleged behavior and his claim of Christian righteousness.   They continue to wrap him in a protective cloak of conservative Christianity because they think he is an exemplar of Christian morality.  And…wait for it…They argue that Jesus considers Moore’s behavior and multiple sexual assaults of girls inconsequential compared to the importance of having a Republican majority in the U.S. Senate.  How dare they!

An Alabama state official, Jim Zeigler, has been quoted nationally claiming that God has no problem with an adult male having sex with a 14-year-old girl.  As evidence of God’s benevolent stance toward such behavior, Zeigler claims that Jesus Christ is the off-spring of a sexual union between Mary (at age 14) and Joseph (an adult man to whom she was engaged), and that this was obviously sanctioned by God.  Most Christians I know would be horrified if they took time to realize what his argument really says.  The Bible says Jesus was conceived by Mary and the Holy Spirit, not Joseph.  This is known as the Doctrine of the Virgin Birth.  Those who acquiesce to these convenient convolutions of Christianity to elect a Republican pedophile to the U.S. Senate cover Christianity in slime.

Pedophilia is neither moral, nor legal, nor beneficial to a healthy society.  It has no place in our homes, schools, houses of worship, communities, or Congress.

Sexual molestation and assault always violate the victim/survivor’s humanity and being, but particularly so when she or he is a child or teen.  It ruptures the very foundation of Jesus’ message of love.  It is pure evil.

Therefore, I end where I began:  Pedophilia is not Christian.

“Beloved, let us love one another, because love is from God; everyone who loves is born of God and knows God.  Whoever does not love does not know God, for God is love.  No one has ever seen God; if we love one another, God lives in us, and God’s love is perfected in us” (I John 4:7-8, 12).




Living as Christians in a Multi-Faith World

Donald Trump’s call to bar Muslims (both U.S. citizens and non-citizens) from entering the U.S., and the anti-Muslim feelings bubbling up in the U.S. and Europe compel me to respond.  There is much I could say, but I will begin by adapting for today portions of a sermon I preached in 2007.  I hope it helps Christians and others find a helpful alternative to fear and hatred of those who believe differently than they do.

Thus says the Lord of hosts, the God of Israel, to all the exiles whom I have sent into exile from Jerusalem to Babylon:  Build houses and live in them; plant gardens and eat what they produce.  Take wives and have sons and daughters; take wives for your sons, and give your daughters in marriage, that they may bear sons and daughters. . . . Seek the welfare of the city where I have sent you into exile, and pray to the Lord on its behalf, for in its welfare you will find your welfare (Jeremiah 29: 4-7).

On the way to Jerusalem Jesus was going through the region between Samaria and Galilee.  As he entered a village, ten lepers approached him.  Keeping their distance, they called out, “Jesus, Master, have mercy on us!”  When he saw them, he said to them, “Go and show yourselves to the priests.”  And as they went, they were made clean.  Then one of them, when he saw that he was healed, turned back, praising God with a loud voice. He prostrated himself at Jesus’ feet and thanked him.  And he was a Samaritan.  Then Jesus asked, “Were not ten made clean”  But the other nine, where are they?  Was none of them found to return and give praise to God except this foreigner?”  Then he said to him, “Get up and go on your way; your faith has made you well.” (Luke 17:11-19)

This passage from the prophet Jeremiah has been important to me ever since a hot, humid Tuesday afternoon in Ohio in 1982 when I stood before 200 Presbyterian ministers and elders for examination regarding my fitness to be ordained as a minister in the Presbyterian Church.

The final question before the vote was asked by a minister who believed my Christian faith was suspect because I studied theology with Christian, Jewish, Muslim, Buddhist and Hindu students at Harvard Divinity School.

“If you were pastor of a local church and a group of Hindus bought property down the street to build a temple,” he asked, “would you take the traditional Christian response?  Would you burn the idols and run the pagans out of town?”

“There are many traditional responses,” I answered.  “I would take the response of the prophet Jeremiah, who said we should build houses, plant gardens, marry and have children, and live side-by-side.  To do otherwise would be to fall into the sin of idolatry, creating our own image of God, and believing that we know all there is to know about the ‘Eternal One.’  Those who know God through other faith traditions may see a part of God we do not see.  We need to listen to and learn from them.”

Our world and nation have changed dramatically since I answered that question.  Gleaming mosques with minarets rise from the cornfields outside Toledo, Ohio.  A Cambodian Buddhist temple and monastery is set in the farmlands south of Minneapolis, Minnesota.  The Buddhist temple in Hacienda Heights, California, is considered so beautiful that “temple view” real estate is highly coveted. Our neighbors wear Sikh turbans and Muslim head scarves.  Many businesses and offices close for Yom Kippur.  Street vendors in Altadena, California kneel for prayer facing Mecca.

The United States has become the most religiously diverse nation on earth, as Diana Eck makes clear in A New Religious America.  Yet the discomfort of many U.S. Christians towards other religions continues. Often those feelings cross over into pride, self-righteousness, fear and hatred.  The belief that Christianity is the pinnacle, the ultimate revelation of God, and the only True way to know the Divine continues as a guiding principle in the lives of many Christians and even U.S. foreign policy. This misinterpretation of Christian scripture was the theological foundation of the Holocaust and informs many Christians today in their response to Islam.

The questions of how people of different faiths live together in this nation and world are important not only for how we relate to our co-workers, neighbors, and classmates.  Now they are critical to our community life, politics, national and international security.  It is time to reflect on these questions biblically, theologically, prayerful, and thoughtfully.

The prophet Jeremiah, the Apostle Paul, and Jesus himself, show respect for those of other faiths and traditions.  They have already shown us an appropriate path forward:  “Build houses, plant gardens, marry and have children, and live side-by-side.  Pray for good and prosperity to come to the non-Jews with whom you live in Babylon.”  In word and deed, show the love and welcome of God for all people.

Of the ten people whom Jesus heals in Luke 17, the only one who comes back to express thanks is a Samaritan whom Jews considered to be of a different religion.  To this man, Jesus says, “Your faith has saved you.”  Jesus uses the word for “salvation,” not the word for “healed.”  This is an important choice of words given that he is of a different religious tradition.

There are a variety of responses to religious diversity.  God is depending on us to choose wisely the responses that enhance life on this planet, rather than unkindness or death and destruction.  In When Religion Becomes Evil, Charles Kimball writes:

“Religion is arguably the most powerful and pervasive force on earth.  Throughout history religious ideas and commitments have inspired individuals and communities of faith to transcend narrow self-interest in pursuit of higher values and truths.  The record of history shows that noble acts of love, self-sacrifice, and service to others are frequently rooted in deeply held religious worldviews.  At the same time, history clearly shows that religion has often been linked directly to the worst examples of human behavior.  It is somewhat trite, but nevertheless sadly true, to say that more wars have been waged, more people killed, and these days more evil perpetrated in the name of religion than by any other institutional force in human history (When Religion Becomes Evil, p.1)

Some argue today that religion, itself, is the problem.  Don’t conflicting truth claims inevitably lead to conflict?  A new wave of books is selling briskly as they proclaim that the world would be better off if we stopped believing in God.

Yes, religion is part of the problem when it becomes distorted.  And no, religion is not the problem, for within the religious traditions that have stood the test of time, we find life-affirming faith that has sustained and provided meaning for millions over the centuries.

In daily conversation, most of us talk about our own religion in terms of its ideals.  At the same time, we often characterize other religious systems in terms of poorly understood teachings and the visibly flawed behavior of adherents.

The truth is, however, that every Christian speaks and acts in ways that are contrary to the ideals of the Christian faith.  People of other religions are in the same boat–they don’t necessarily live out the ideals of their faith any better than we do.  But do we, or they, want our entire faith tradition and community judged only by the ways we have fallen short of our ideals?  Of course not.

Despite distinctive characteristics and conflicting truth claims, religious traditions function in similar ways and share some essential teachings.  For example, all religious traditions mark key life stages, offer an analysis of the human predicament, and outline a path toward the desired goal.

Identifying common characteristics among religions is not the same as saying all religions are the same.  In fact, no religion is the same from one century to the next, from one country to the next, or often from one side of the street to the other.  Most people of faith acknowledge that our own theology and religious insights have changed through years of living.

It is also true that not all religious worldviews are equally valid.  They are not all just different paths up the same mountain.  Value judgments do need to be made between and within each of our religious traditions.  Some religions, religious worldviews, and subsets of even the enduring religions are unhealthy and abusive.  The judgement of when a religion is good and when it has become evil ought to be based upon the core values of faith, hope, love, and gratitude.

Kimball likens God or the transcendent in each enduring religious tradition to true north on a compass.  There are two different types of north:  magnetic north and geographic north.  The needle of a compass points to magnetic north, not geographic north.  Depending on where you are on earth, there can be several degrees of variation.  You might say that our religious needles point in the right direction, but we must be careful lest we assume the needle on our particular compass points directly to the sum total of the reality of God (Kimball, p. 191).

Faith, hope, love, and gratitude are the guiding principles on the spiritual compass that point toward true North, or the transcendent, in all enduring religions.

What is most striking to me about the healing story in the Gospel of Luke is that the only person who returns to Jesus with gratitude is not who most of us expect it to be.  It is a religious foreigner.  Only the religious foreigner recognized that the proper response to kindness is untainted gratitude and praise of God’s mercy.

Luke shows the racial and religious foreigner as an instrument of grace and a window into God.  The Samaritan was healed and saved, but continued to be a Samaritan.

I am convinced that it is possible to be a person of faith with integrity–Christian, Hindu, Jew, Muslim, Buddhist, Sikh–and at the same time recognize that one’s own experience of God does not exhaust all the possibilities.

Faithful Christians strive to be better disciples of Jesus today than we were yesterday:  to be kinder, more gentle, more courageous, more generous, to keep our tempers in check, speak words of encouragement to others, and provide a gracious welcome to all whom we encounter. Faithful Christians seek the welfare of the city where we live and are open to what non-Christians can teach us about God.  We try to live as Jeremiah and Jesus command us to live.

When asked if good Jews, Muslims, Buddhists, Hindus or secular people would go to heaven, the Reverend Billy Graham replied, “Those are decisions only the Lord will make.  It would be foolish for me to speculate on who will be there and who won’t . . . . I believe the love of God is absolute.  He said he gave his son for the whole world, and I think he loves everybody regardless of what label they have.”

I agree with Billy Graham.  Let us build houses, plant gardens, welcome people of all faiths to our shores, respect Americans of all faiths and no faith, and rear generations who will know not Christian hatred, but Christian love.  If we do this, we will be faithful to the God of Jeremiah and Jesus, to the true north of the world’s enduring religions, and to the values of our American Constitution.

Diana Eck, A New Religious America:  How A “Christian Country” Has Become The World’s Most Religiously Diverse Nation, HarperSanFrancisco, 2001
Charles Kimball, When Religion Becomes Evil, HarperSanFrancisco, 2002