In the hope that you and I will not add to the number of turkeys present at our Thanksgiving feasts, here are my Top Ten Tips for not sprouting feathers on Thursday.

1. Ask other people about their life more than you talk about yours.
2. Say, “It’s good to see you,” instead of, “Wow, you’ve really gained weight.”
3. Ask the host(s) periodically, “May I be helpful in some way?”
4. Say, “You look fantastic” instead of, “Wow, you’ve lost a lot of weight.”
5. Ask someone in a painful life circumstance, “How are you doing these days?”  Most people appreciate the inquiry, even if they choose not to share.
6. Cut up your food, not people.
7. Advocate for children who are uncomfortable with hugs and kisses.
8. Stay away from turkeys in the room – except the bird on your plate.
9. If you become a turkey, apologize and eat humble pie.
10. Most important:  Put a pebble in your pocket and, each time you touch it, give thanks for something in your life. Gratitude is the best antidote for feathers.
    
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